What can I say, Life Happens! We may not like it and may not have any control over it, but it happens.
Sometimes, it happens in three’s (3’s). You know the old saying when someone passes away, two more are certainly to follow (as morbid as that may be). But to be honest, I believe it.
Please hear me out.
The Domino Effect: Dealing with Unexpected Distressing News 1-2-3
It happened to me recently. The good old domino effect of sad news. Seriously, the three(s) really suck and there is nothing you can do about it.
A domino effect or chain reaction is the cumulative effect produced when one event sets off a chain of similar events. The term is best known as a mechanical effect and is used as an analogy to a falling row of dominoes. – Wikipedia
I found out my aunt passed away. She was also my Godmother and no matter how often I did or did not see or talk to her, it still hurt. I don’t do death well. I lost my mother at a young age and my father in my 30’s. I’ve had enough of losing friends to cancer and such and don’t do funerals.
However, I knew I had to do this one.
My uncle and she both had a bout of the flu with other pre-existing conditions and although my uncle made it out of the hospital, my aunt just was not strong enough. I’m told she was ready to go.
My general practitioner doctor dumped me. Not really but he decided to change his practice to more of a specialty than general. That meant you had to “buy into” the program and medical insurance did not cover it. Who the hell as close to $4000 lying around for a year of specialty care?
So, I had to find a new doctor. Thankfully, one doctor I saw years ago is still in the business and switched over to her.
Fast-forward to my Friday appointment, which by the way, I arrived 30 minutes early to fill out all my paperwork. My appointment time came around and they announced she was running 30 minutes behind.
I don’t do well with waiting!
When I finally got to see her and she broke out the good old blood pressure machine, I jokingly said, “It’s going to be high”. I’ll never say that again because it was off the charts for me!
She seemed very concerned and thoughts of being rushed off to the emergency room flooded my mind. Mind you, that doesn’t work for me! Who will tend to my dysfunctional dogs? My boy hates everyone! This is not good and can’t happen!
There was a repeat check and it was still high. It really scared me!
I’ve been treated for anxiety since August 2018. In January 2019, my previous doctor raised my dosage. After thinking all day Friday and Saturday, this has to be the reason for the bp increase!
I messaged my doctor and told her to tell me how to get off the meds. She said to half my dosage until I go back next month. Being an impatient person, I want to quit now and my bp to be back to normal.
Patience is a virtue.
And I have none!
So here I go playing the waiting game on lowering my bp. Also, lowering my sodium intake and my caffeine. I don’t know if it will help. It’s those damn antianxiety pills that are supposed to save me yet are causing havoc on my heart!
Due to my anxiety and my love for being at home, I don’t go out often. However, after attending my aunt’s funeral on Saturday, a divorced friend of mine and I decided to get together. We had planned on dinner and catching up. Was very excited about that!
About a few hours before I was to leave, I got a headache. I really didn’t think much of it but maybe I should have.
I arrive at her place and we caught up for a bit before heading out to a birthday party and then dinner. We at dinner well late into the evening, like 10 pm. I never eat this late and it was probably part of the issue. The other issue is I don’t think I’m a good passenger in a vehicle anymore. 😦
We had a great time chatting and food, Texas Roadhouse was delish! On the way back to her place, as always more great convo, I started getting hot so I cracked the window. In less than 5 minutes, I barfed all over myself and the inside of her new Mustang!
OMG! WHAT THE F**K!
She quickly pulled over asking if I was alright. I don’t know if I was more embarrassed about what I did or the fact that I was wearing my Texas Roadhouse dinner. Thankfully she had towels in her backseat so I could clean up myself and her car to an extent.
No freaking clue why!
The only thing I can think of is exactly this.
I noticed over the past few years that I can get a bit queasy riding as a passenger in a vehicle. I don’t know if it’s because I don’t have control or because some people drive by pushing on the gas – letting up – pushing – letting up causing an awful back and forth effect.
I apologized a million times and am still so embarrassed especially being we hadn’t seen each other in a few years.
Did she care about the car? Not shown to me. She was more concerned about me, my wellbeing. Such a great friend!
The Domino Effect Can Suck it!
And how do we deal with it? Well, we just have to push through it and find ways to keep going further. Suck up your pride, apologize, do things we don’t really want to do and be done with it.
No one said life would be easy, but when the Domino Effect kicks in WATCH OUT!
Over to you, I would love to know what type of domino effect you have personally experienced.
- How do you deal with death?
- What about your own health issues that pop up out of nowhere? Is that a midlife thing that is to be expected?
- Do you have issues being a passenger in a car? Has it always been that way or something that gradually came on?
Let’s share and chat about it in the comments! Come on, don’t be shy! We’re midlifers! We can let it all out! 😉